In my last blog I wrote about us desiring freedom and fearing it at the same time. Fear of being able to choose how you want you and your life to be? Oh yes! We women… in fact, the whole of humanity… have been trained by our families and societies to be sheep. And fear keeps us that way.

Don’t take offense. You’re a mammal and just like you can train a dog that happened to you too. You think, feel and behave in line with whatever your particular training involved.

Seen wildlife programmes where an antelope strays from the herd and gets pounced on and killed by a lioness? Gulp! That’s why you have a primitive urge to not stand out from the herd.

Instead, blend in with crowd and follow the herd’s values and norms without thinking. Do not stand out. Do not pass go. Do not collect £200. If you’re different you chance being killed or, at the very least, vilified. The term ‘black sheep’ of the family was not coined lightly.

Phew… back with the herd I’m safe now!

On the other hand, the unicorn is a mythical creature usually shown as a majestic white horse with a single, straight and pointed horn. It is renowned for its purity and grace and its healing powers.

For me, the unicorn symbolises who you really are instead of who you were trained to be; your essential essence, your core, your true self. And your unicorn calls for freedom to choose the life you desire.

Are you a sheep or a unicorn?

Confusing, eh? Because it’s not either/or. And, if you haven’t guessed by now, part of you is a sheep and another and deeper part of you is a unicorn. The pull to be safe with the herd and the opposite pull to free yourself from the herd can tug and whizz you around inside out.

Our very bodies are ruled by homeostasis, to maintain internal stability and keep us functioning normally, i.e., same-old-same-old. So, if you identify more as a sheep, you will have to keep denying your unicorn.

When you do, the unicorn keeps knocking on your door with its horn to be let in. If you don’t answer, it comes back later and kicks wildly at your door with strong hooves. If you still don’t answer it comes back and breaks your bloody door down! Illness, stress, crises within and without… whatever it needs to do to get your attention. But…

By moving from what you don’t want in your life to what you desire instead is an act of freedom in which both your sheep and unicorn can collaborate.

That’s why my #7 Step Dare to be You Home Study Programme™ works over time. It guides your sheep with lots of resources so it doesn’t run away scared and co-operates with your unicorn’s desire for you to be more of who you really are.

Imagine being in a beautiful safe meadow out in the country. It’s a warm, sunny day with a cool breeze that caresses your skin. You feel relaxed and glad to be here.

Now see your sheep grazing on lush vegetation and being reassured by the strong fence surrounding its meadow. Down a path leading to the meadow, you see a beautiful unicorn approaching in the distance.

As it gets closer and closer your sheep notices the white light of the unicorn and its gentle demeanour, full of purity and grace. Your sheep raises its head, uncertain of what might happen.

However, the unicorn stops at a respectful distance, paws the ground gently with one hoof and gives a soft sensual whinny. Your sheep relaxes and the two move towards each other at a slow and measured pace.

Your sheep nestles in the curve of your unicorn’s body and the unicorn is soft and tender in return. Slowly and gently they merge together as if one. Notice how you feel as they do.

Trusting your inner wisdom, allow the image or sense of your beautiful and safe place in nature to fade. Then allow the image or sense of your sheep and unicorn being together fade too. And now turn your attention outward back into the room in which you sit.

How did you feel when your sheep and unicorn came together?

What have you learned from this experience?

How will your behaviour change because of this learning?

My #7Step programme goes live in January. So, if there’s something you don’t want in your life anymore, keep in touch. And, if you know one or two women who should be receiving my blog posts, please forward this to them and encourage them to join our community here.

Remember… it’s not either/or. Both your sheep and unicorn need embracing. Together, they can manifest more of who you really are and create more of the life you desire.

How powerful is that?

Photo by Randy Tarampi on Unsplash


  1. Nicky Kentisbeer

    Beautiful Sharon. A wonderfully descriptive analogy that will ring true for many.

  2. Sharon Eden

    Thank you Nicky… I hope it will!

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