Graham Norton interviewed Hilary Clinton on his show last Friday. Asked how she recovered from her presidential campaign defeat, she quoted her mother’s adage that it’s not the falling but the getting up that counts. Yeah-yeah, the ‘pick-yourself-up-dust-yourself-down-and-start-all-over-again’ thing.
AND coming to terms with egg on your face takes some doing. It’s painful! First you have to honour your feelings and then get over yourself. (More of that in my next post).
To begin with you feel humiliation, shame, looking foolish, loss of face and wanting the ground to swallow you up. I’d lay a bet it was the same for Hilary in the ‘turmoil’ she went through after the election result.
And, if I was a gambling woman, I’d lay money on you having fallen flat on your face and more than once, just like me. Here’s some of my tumbles…
The time my secondary school form said they’d vote for me as class rep… and not one of them did. The time I believed in ‘happy ever afters’ and my partner abandoned us when our son was a baby. The time I flunked an exam as a mature student which I had the ability to sail through. The time I behaved honourably in divorce and my ex conned me financially. How stupid did I feel when I found out?
OK…Here’s the upside. In every falling flat on your face event, there’s at least one nugget of gold for your growth and evolution as the magnificent woman you really are. For example…
From the school event I realised I was quite obnoxious and changed some behaviours for the better.
From the abandonment event I learned I was naïve and began to get real!
From the exam event I learned how my low self-belief could sabotage me and took steps to improve it.
From the divorce event, I learned my ex was a shit-head. Well, that and how to take better financial care of myself for the future.
Falling-flat-on-your-face-events can be obstacles that bring you down. But my #7Step Dare to be You Home Study Programme shows you how to embrace all obstacles for your learning and growth. Pretty neat, eh? Here’s a taster…
Think of a time you fell flat on your face. Take the first example you get.
Look back at that time in your imagination and, briefly, see or sense what happened.
Then, trusting your own inner wisdom, ask yourself, ‘What did I learn from falling flat on my face at that time?’ Take the first answer you get.
What do you do differently now, or will do, because of what you’ve learned?
If you’d like me to know what you learned from falling flat on your face, I’d love to hear from you.
Comment below or, if you prefer, send me an email.
Richard Branson, Winston Churchill, J K Rowling, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfrey, among many others, have all fallen flat on their face at times.
You and I are in great company, woman!